{"id":19577,"date":"2018-04-17T16:38:18","date_gmt":"2018-04-17T16:38:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/?p=19577"},"modified":"2022-02-20T20:19:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T20:19:16","slug":"men-provide-and-protect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/?p=19577","title":{"rendered":"Men Want to Earn a Living"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-19586\" src=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" srcset=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme.jpg 1400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>Men want to earn a living \u2013 women want to marry them and look after the kids<\/h4>\n<p>\u2018We need attitudes to change over paternity leave\u2019 apparently, if you take orders from Lorraine Candy at the <em>Sunday Times<\/em>. High on emotion, low on logic, Candy is concerned that \u2018dads are doomed for ever to be seen as secondary parents, hovering in the wings of their kids\u2019 childhoods\u2019. Clearly, she has not seen a middle-class family operate for some days. Either that or it was wine o\u2019clock when she wrote <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thetimes.co.uk\/article\/family-attitudes-paternity-leave-lorraine-candy-gj87rvfpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">this piece<\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Britain is so rich that soon we could be paying fathers to be at home with the kids instead of at work for at least 12 weeks. The government has already spent \u00a31.5million highlighting the not-so-popular shared parental leave policy, but it seems the pesky fathers will still not leave the office to take up full-time caring of infants.<\/p>\n<p>It is as if something innate is telling them that they are not that suited to looking after tiny children full-time on their own. Who knew?<\/p>\n<p>I have no doubt that due to this stubbornness of the British father, a \u2018use it or lose it\u2019 paternity leave will be just around the corner. Goodness knows how much it will cost, but you know as a country we can totally afford it.<\/p>\n<p>Candy has many concerns. She wants to fight for \u2018equality for dads\u2019 and bust the \u2018unhelpful myth of the male as the breadwinner\u2019. Only it is not a myth. Most women do want men to win the bread, so they know they can eat something when the kids come along. They will work too, usually, because they have to and want to, but the breadwinning male isn\u2019t a myth.<\/p>\n<p>Men want to earn a living and provide for their families. This is something men aspire to still. The reason for this is that <a href=\"https:\/\/ifstudies.org\/blog\/mens-breadwinning-still-matters-for-marriage\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">women aspire to marry these men<\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">,<\/span> despite what the feminists tell you.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, \u2018female breadwinners, especially those who didn\u2019t set out to make most of their family\u2019s income, <span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/edition.cnn.com\/2016\/10\/07\/health\/infidelity-breadwinners-cheat-husband-wife\/index.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">have been found to feel less satisfied about their lives<\/a><\/span>\u2019. Gosh, that\u2019s a little awkward.<\/p>\n<p>The best bit is when Candy drags out the socialist dream \u2013 sometimes Sweden, sometimes Finland but in this case Iceland. It is frequently Iceland. \u2018In Iceland, they seem to be making progress on this front: they have a \u201cuse it or lose it\u201d system whereby both parents are paid 80 per cent of their earnings to take three months off. The result: most dads take pat leave.\u2019 I have no doubt.<\/p>\n<p>My quick internet search tells me that Iceland had a population of 334,252 as of 2016.<\/p>\n<p>So, yes, I am sure you can implement any socialist policy you want with those kinds of numbers. But transferring this to a UK population of 66million might prove tricky.<\/p>\n<p>Copyright \u00a9 2018 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.conservativewoman.co.uk\/men-want-to-earn-a-living-women-want-to-marry-them-and-look-after-the-kids\/?utm_source=TCW+Daily+Email&amp;utm_campaign=0e31b4187d-RSS_DAILY_EMAIL&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_term=0_a63cca1cc5-0e31b4187d-559861273\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">The Conservative Woman<\/span>&#8211;<\/a>All rights reserved<\/p>\n<div class=\"pdfprnt-buttons pdfprnt-buttons-post pdfprnt-bottom-left\"><a href=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F19577&print=pdf\" class=\"pdfprnt-button pdfprnt-button-pdf\" target=\"_blank\" ><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/plugins\/pdf-print\/images\/pdf.png\" alt=\"image_pdf\" title=\"View PDF\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F19577&print=print\" class=\"pdfprnt-button pdfprnt-button-print\" target=\"_blank\" ><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/plugins\/pdf-print\/images\/print.png\" alt=\"image_print\" title=\"Print Content\" \/><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Men want to earn a living \u2013 women want to marry them and look after the kids \u2018We need attitudes to change over paternity leave\u2019 apparently, if you take orders from Lorraine Candy at the Sunday Times. High on emotion, low on logic, Candy is concerned that \u2018dads are doomed for ever to be seen [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":97,"featured_media":19586,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-19577","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-family","8":"wp-image-borders","9":"entry"},"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/what-is-the-daily-aim-of-parenting-zpb1byme.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4bgnN-55L","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19577","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/97"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=19577"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19577\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22637,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19577\/revisions\/22637"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/19586"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=19577"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=19577"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/watchmanmedia.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=19577"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}